Feeling empty on the inside? Here’s why
Ask yourself these questions:
• what do I lack?
• where is my gaping hole?
• what’s missing for me?
Also ask yourself:
• what am I trying to get
• what do I need to feel full
• what do I need to feel whole and complete
The above questions are going to help you to see the bigger picture of where you are.
Ultimately it does not matter what the “thing” is that you’re trying to fulfil yourself with.
What matters is that there is a sense of:
• I don’t have something
• I’m missing something
• I need something
That’s very important to acknowledge. Go ahead and acknowledge it now, so that you can see where you are spending your energy and where your focus is truly landing. Then notice how often you are reinforcing the discomfort of the lack. In my case it was something I used to focus on every day, throughout the day – it even filled up my dream space!
Take this in …
You feel like something is missing because there is. But it’s not what you think.
The thing that’s missing is not what you identified in the above exercise. The above exercise was to show you exactly where you are directing your creative energy, and because your creative energy is directed at those exact points, you are contributing to and amplifying those things. We do this unwittingly. It doesn’t make you bad, it makes you human. But because you can see this, you have the power to change things in your life in a very powerful way.
The thing that’s missing is gratitude but it can’t be forced, so we need a way to find your gratitude in a way that is 100% authentic. I’ve seen people create laborious gratitude lists and I even tried it once and felt even more empty because I was just saying words that I knew were the right words, but they weren’t landing and I couldn’t truly resonate with them even if they were true. I realized enough to know that gratitude cannot be faked so I had to find out how to access true gratitude.
There’s a way to access true gratitude: it is something so simple, so immediate, that it almost feels like magic. It costs nothing, it takes no training, and you can begin in this very moment. A single shift that has the power to recreate your entire reality.
STOP FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE.
START FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU DO HAVE.
When we are going through hardship, it is effortless to feel the gnawing pain. It requires no skill, no effort. It is simply there, demanding our undivided attention. We lament, we cry, we rage, we blame, and in doing so, we keep ourselves locked into the ache.
Here’s my story:
That was me. Oh boy, did I focus on my pain.
But then I began to turn my gaze toward what I did have. That was the earliest flicker of gratitude. And I was stunned by how much beauty I had overlooked. That which you overlook may as well not exist, for the moment you fail to see it, you strip it of its value. This was a massive shift for me.
Of course, the “yes but” bug rose up immediately. It whispered: yes but, you still have all this hardship. Yes but, what about the pain. Yes but, how will this solve anything. Yes but, what about the injustice. This voice always comes when we first start to practice true gratitude. It tries to pull us back into the familiar groove of lack. But I kept gently redirecting myself because I just knew that I had hit onto something that had the power to reshape my destiny, and it did.
I pulled my awareness toward the sunset and let awe wash through me. I marvelled at the miracle of sight itself, even if all I saw was a rubbish heap, the fact remained: I could see.
I began to name what I did have. I did have wisdom. I did have love. I did have laughter. I did have toes that could squiggle in the grass and a nose that could smell sweet flowers. I had more than I could possibly imagine, and that was the birthplace of true gratitude.
And as the gratitude deepened, it brought me to tears. It lodged like a lump in my throat, so thick I could barely swallow, and in that choking-with-emotion moment I knew I had become sincere. Gratitude was no longer a practice. It was a presence. I wasn’t trying to be grateful. I was in show-stopping awe at the magnificence that infused my everyday reality which I had simply paid no attention to. No wonder I felt empty. My attention was full of lack, and so my life became empty of beauty. I had placed 24/7 focus on suffering, and in so doing I made the gaping hole bigger every day. I longed to fill the emptiness. I spoke good intentions. But the feelings underneath it all were confirming what my mind knew, I was in dire straits. Poverty had me in a stranglehold and I had no way out. The lack became my daily devotion and I had no idea that I was its architect.
One day, I got grateful for my husband whose love knows no bounds. He was standing in front of me, loving me, and I wasn’t letting it in because I was too busy focusing on what we needed. I felt that love and beauty were luxuries I didn’t have time for, little did I know that I had all the time in the world for these things and needed them more than ever before. I saw the sweet smiles of my children eating sandwiches at the kitchen table, their little crumb infused faces, and when I let myself see them, I was cleansed I didn’t realize that until then I couldn’t even see the beauty of my children or the world around me because the lens I was looking through was trained to spot danger, waiting for the next thing to go wrong, standing with a metaphorical sword to fight off the next wave of debt collectors or the next person trying to take advantage of our terrible situation. But oh, when I just saw the smiles, and let myself see them … the tears came.
I was starting to see what I did have, and it extended to everything. I got grateful for the way sunlight catches the leaves and turns them into luminous green. Yes, I feared that this gratitude, as elevating as it was, might drop my guard and leave us more vulnerable. But I also knew enough to recognize that was not truth speaking. It was fear. And I had a choice to listen to it or to love.
I had unknowingly and unwittingly been so tuned out of love because I was so tuned in to desperation that gratitude, when I finally found it, felt like a thirst that had been neglected for eons, finally being quenched. I got grateful for the feel of grass beneath my feet and the endless bounty of nature. The way a rock feels when I touch it; ancient, cool, enduring. The list is endless. And life became more beautiful, not because I had enough, but because my focus was turned from lack to plenty. I got humble. I started seeing all the things that I had not acknowledged before but that were indescribable in their magnificence. To this day, a flower on the side of the road can bring me to tears because I finally allowed myself to see what around me all along. God was in everything and everywhere. My life was overflowing. It wasn’t long after that my creativity came back, and my teachings came online again.
When you step into sincere gratitude and you begin to see what you have, you begin to soften. You stop complaining and start celebrating the bounty you were blind to before. Victimhood goes out the window and without you even realizing it, you become powerful again. You start to see just how much goodness has been sitting quietly in the background of your life, waiting for you to notice.
You discover that the emptiness was never truly empty at all. The thing that was missing was never a “thing.”
So how about a new exercise now, one that allows you to turn your gaze, even just for a moment, from lack to fullness?
Ask yourself these 3 questions:
• What beauty have I not paid attention to today?
• What is right in front of me that I forgot to see?
• What else is there, waiting for me to celebrate?
What matters is:
• you’re not relying on what you don’t have to define your reality anymore
• you’re starting to lean into what you do have and therefore create more of that
• you’re focusing less on lack and more on abundance
Remember that it was only the story that called your attention to lack, and your attention was held there until you consciously moved it. There always comes a time when you are ready to replace fear with truth. And the time has come.
Deeper truths for you to ponder:
• you are where you’re meant to be … take a breath and let that in
• that means you’re not in the wrong place … even if you’re in difficulty, it remains the right place where transcendence can happen
• if you find yourself in an imperfect state, this is the right place for you to elevate from
• when you stop fighting where you are, you realize that acceptance doesn’t mean defeat, it means that you’re finally free to move forward
One of the fundamentals that you will hear often in the Plasma Light Tribe is that you cannot move on from where you are until you are where you are. This is an exercise in acceptance, alchemy, and transcendence. These are fundamentals that my teachings overflow with.
Of course, if you love where you are, be in it more fully so that you can move into it more freely and amplify it, because just when things are good, you need to ask yourself: how good can this get?
If your life holds no hardship, the path looks different. Not better, not worse, simply another way of travelling to the same destination. For you, the challenge is to focus on what else is present that you have not yet seen, and to open even more deeply to it. Because if you think this is as good as it gets, think again. You have not yet glimpsed even a fraction of the miracles you came here to witness and embody.
So let us elevate, my loves. It is time to lead the way in love and truth, which means leading from abundance, happiness, and a fullness that words can only ever hint at.
Gratitude does not erase pain. It transforms it. It does not fill the hole with distractions, it turns the hole into the whole. And in that fullness, you finally remember that you were never truly empty at all.
With so much love…
From my heart to yours…
Thanks, Kerry, for reminding me to remember.
Gail D’Angiolillo
Now don’t forget ok?! xx
Oh Kerry ❣️
Sooo helpful & Right in sync❣️
Crying love-filled tears, starting with gratitude for You, alongside of me.
How….. Freakin’…… Good……
does… this… get…? So much love to you always xx
Yes! Totally feeling the shift from focusing on the lack to the enormous blessings surrounding me.
Much Love ❤️
That is a wonderful leap in awareness! Ask yourself often “How good does this get?” xx
That was for me a potent read….I am there in that difficult place
Now be there, just where you are, no expectations, no pressure, no analysis. Just BE present. Then watch how you begin to shift. So much love to you – you got this. xx
Thank you so much Kerry! We love you!
God is the infinite ‘I’ within, and without. 🙏🏼
So much love xx
Thanks for this beautifully stated and simple recounting of how you went from fear to trust, Kerry. I find it so helpful.
Hearing this makes my heart sing! You are so welcome my love xx
YOUR TEACHINGS ARE SO SIMPLE KERRY BUT SO VERY DEEP 🩷🩷🩷🌹🌷🌻 FROM MY HEART TO YOURS DENISE 💕
Thank you for sharing your love with me xx
Thank you Kerry, this is such a powerful post and an incredible continuation of what I was feeling last week.
In our neighbourhood we have a lot of dogs that bark. It’s like groundhog day. The first one is just before 6am, then the next is non stop between 7-8am and next is the ‘yapper’ across the field that barks for as long as it can see the people and dogs walking on or across the field. On bin days and recycling days it’s even worse with the souls checking in the bins.
I was having a grumble about it and then read a post by a woman who I follow on IG (Bluofearth), who has a genetic condition where she has nearly lost all her hearing and she’s only in her early 30’s.
It was such a beautifully written post and made me so grateful that I can hear.
And now every time those dogs bark and the hadedas squawk I remind myself and feel the gratitude that I do still have my very good hearing and I can hear the Robin who sings beautifully at dawn, and the music I love and the doves cooing in the background of your meditations😊
Thank you for always sending us these reminders just when we really need them.
Sending so much love and gratitude 💞
How beautiful – your words have warmed my heart so much. Thank you for taking the time to comment and for sharing your love with me. xx
OOOH OOOH OOOH🥹🔥🥹🔥🥹🔥🩷🩷🩷😘😘😘
I laughed, i cried🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
TRUTH❤️🩷VALIDATED❤️🩷❤️🩷
SO CLEAR, SO LOUD, SO LIBERATING, SO PROFOUND 🦋💓🦋💓🦋💓🩵
Dear Kerry
Thank you so much for your words. That was exactly what I needed today.
Tears of gratitude in my eyes now. The shift happened immediatly
Love you
So much love for you beloved xx
Thank you for being such a vibrant part of the PLT community. I appreciate you. xx
Thank you so much Kerry for this beautiful message. I woke up this morning in tears because of the lacking of things and having to let go of other things. I called out to God, the universe and my beloved family in the spirit world and asked them for help. And few minutes later, I opened your mail. I was really meant to read this today. Thank you.
I am so glad that these words landed for you. You are so very welcome xx
Amazing teaching , I’ll start ask these questions to myself. Can’t agree more on “you can’t fake gratitude ”. It happens to me so many times that I keep saying to myself those right words but I can’t truly feel it to be honest . However I do have will in my heart that I keep practicing no matter what ,until I get even tiny bit of the my truth. I love your teaching and it always gives me new perspectives and feelings that keeps me going. I am not reading person but this blog resonated with me a lot. Thank you Kerry , I’ll continue my journey.
It means the world to hear that. xx
The energy radiating from this message is pure love. So strong, so felt, so beautiful. Something I’m truly grateful for, is finding Kerry K. Thank you. X
So beautiful to receive your message. I am honoured to walk beside you xx
Thank you Kerry for sharing your life experiences. I needed your gentle reminder and wisdom to stay focused on what makes me feel good, not on my challenges. It is an easy concept to understand but sometimes difficult to practice all the time. Our brains love to play tricks on us. Sending you much love and gratitude for all the good you put into the world. ❤️
Thank you so much for your message, I am so grateful it resonated. Remember out of your head and into your heart. xx
Dear Kerry, last friday in the PLT you were talking about the answers already there in the energy field around us and you ask us all to be present in that field. During the last days I remembered to practise that (I really was looking forward to practise this a lot but to be honest in my daily life I just managed it only a few moments). But anyway it started that there is coming clarity for me, and suddenly I noticed that a thing became obvious to me without even I had asked.
And with your sharing about gratitude for me it answered multiple questions in a very profound and touching way.
Thank you Kerry with all my love and thank you everybody for making it possible that I can read this here 🙂 and thank you all being here 🙂
So beautiful to receive your message and to know that you are experiencing such wonderful results from applying what the extraordinary field of the PLT offers. Truly – your message has put a twinkle in my eye. So much love
Oh dear Kerry,
Thank you so much for those words. They were exactly what I needed to hear. I am so grateful for having you in my life. And I am so grateful for the universe for always finding a way to deliver what I need when I need. I feel so supported right now. Thank you. ❤️
Thank you for your message. It’s a gift to hear when my words reach someone in this way. So much love xx
I’m grateful for your words coming at a time when I needed to hear them and feel them the most. I’m struggling with a life transition, and I know focusing on this beautiful time in my life will help ease me into the next chapter. Thank you-
Dear Kerry, that’s exactly the answer to the question I was asking myself today. THANK YOU
I resonate with this so much. The pain is louder. It shadows everything good around you. It changes the lense of how you see things. The good is always there quieter, softer for it does not need to compete it shines on is own. I am grateful for many things. I just need to let them be in the forefront as the pain fades. Grateful for you dear one 🥰
Thank you, Kerri, for this sharing about “Gratitude”, which is critical for every Soul to practice day in and day out!
Kerry, this is so beautifully written that I have tears of gratitude for your loving presence with those who have been missing the abundance of beauty and love we are all surrounded by. This has also been myself at times in my life and I am eternally grateful for your reminder to not let that slip back into being my present. I feel your heart through your words sister and it is beautiful. Namaste 🙏❤️
Herzlichen Dank
Habe es so ähnlich vor 11 Jahren erlebt
Mich in Schmerz und Selbstmitleid gesuhlt
Ich habe mir bis ca. 2019 wie eine Wand selbst im Weg gestanden,bis ich anfing mich selbst zu akzeptieren und lieben wie ich bin.
Dankbarkeit ist heute mein Begleiter
Herzlichen Dank liebe Kerry 😘
Thank you dear soul sister. Your story couldn’t have come at a better timing. I am at the lowest point in my life, the emptyness is crushing.
I’ve lost two pregnancies this year and it almost broke me. Everything else in my life is also chaotic, the hardships just won’t end.
But I have things in my life I am grateful for so thank you for reminding us to shift our focus.
Love to everyone,
Rosi from Germany
Dear Rosi, sometimes the smallest shift in perspective can bring hope and gratitude back into your heart. So much love for you. I hope you feel it. From my heart xx
Wow you wrote and expressed this so truly, innocently and profoundly, really magnificent
Thank you, Kerry. As always right in time and on point, dear! Blessings to you!
I am grateful for this timely reminder! Thank you for being of service to your fellow seekers! I believe this was a confirmation that my angels wanted me to share with my light sister! Sending lots of love, hugs and angel protection as you continue sharing! 😘💖😇🙏
Thank you🙏🏻
Love you❤️
You are so welcome. So much love
So needed to hear this right now. A beautiful reminder of something I so often forget — that it’s always there, always available to us in every moment.
I just gave thanks for my clean water, the roof over my head, and the opportunity to grow, dissolve old patterns, and alchemise fear. Every moment is a chance to connect more deeply with who I truly am — who we all truly are.
Last night and yesterday brought some of the most powerful experiences. I had some wild dreams that felt like reality — vibrational tests from galactic beings. Of course, this isn’t where I place my focus or rely on for healing, but the experience gave me confidence and courage. Despite the days of doubt, and moments of loneliness, I know I’m exactly where I’m meant to be.
Catch you Friday. Thank you, Kerry K, and your wonderful team.
I’m going to meditate for an hour now, then lie in bed, watch a movie, and rest. I love gazing at the stars at night. Last night, the head pressure was intense — during the experience, I was half asleep, half awake, and it felt like a test for what’s to come.
With love 💞
Thank you! 🙏🏼 Isnt it amazing how these things works? I just shared with you about my ancestral healing progress. Its about the inherited lack patterns my family have been living by for so long. I have been ‘breaking’ some patterns. Making different choices. Last week there was this….. Moment. I dont know the words. It washed over me. This “living room make over” was not just about the one purchase to break 1 part of the cycle. It was way bigger. Being allowed to enjoy, feel safe and cozy in your own living space….. Still figuring out what actually happend. There was indeed also some gratitude parts lingering around. Thank you for sharing. Its really inspiring and supporting!
I live today with all the lack, pain and aloneness you can imagine, One thing I have plenty of is that feeling of gratitude. 🥳 It was hidden inside me and came to the surface ones in awhile when people where nice. Now it is just all the time, it is my strenght, I call it my talent 😂… Although still ill and socialy isolated because of it I feel truely gratefull. It is the beauty in the litlle things that keeps me going, to see, really see what is in front of me… And Kerry your explainations, your authenticity has been helping me a LOT!!! In this moment my gratitude goes to you. Thank you Kerry!!! 🤗❤️🙏
You are so very welcome xx